fear of permissiveness
Alfie Kohn on Incentives and Parenting (Aaron Swartz: The Weblog) : …‘The biggest problem is fear of permissiveness. For every one kid who is allowed to run around the store screaming — and believe me, they annoy me too — a hundred kids are slapped or yelled at or punished or rewarded. Fear of permissiveness leads parents to clamp down on control.’…