what pain do you want in your life? What are you willing to struggle for? Because that seems to be a greater determinant of how our lives turn out.

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Swami Sivananda in Yoga of Self-Surrender: Pain is the great eye-opener. It is your silent teacher. It will make you remember God. Kunti prayed "0 Lord Krishna, give me pain always so that I may ever remember you." The more troubles and adversities you get, the stronger and firmer will be your faith in God. They will mould you into a divine being. Welcome them.